Are you a high achieving, hard working person who can easily feel like an imposter or a fraud? Do you feel like you’re not all that talented or intelligent and that all of your achievements and successes are a fluke? If so, let me tell you about imposter syndrome and what to do about it. I’m going to share with you 3 powerful steps to eliminate imposter syndrome from your life and give you the tools to write your new story.
I totally get you. When I was starting out as a new clinician I constantly made myself feel like an imposter. I worked my ass off and no matter how much positive feedback I received from my colleagues and patients; I was absolutely convinced I was mediocre at best and it was a matter of time until someone was going to figure it out. And you know what? I was not alone. Some of the most powerful people on this planet have felt this way and have learned to overcome this feeling.
Are you ready?!
My passion is to spread the word and so now I am sharing these life changing strategies with you.
Let’s talk about imposter syndrome.
Do you feel like an imposter? Imposter syndrome is anxiety masquerading as self-doubt and intellectual fraud. Typically, imposter syndrome occurs in high achieving and highly successful people. For example: Did you know that Tom Hanks, Emma Watson, Maya Angelou, and Neil Armstrong all have struggled with imposter syndrome?
From the outside that seems completely bonkers, right? Who doesn’t love Tom Hanks?!
But that’s the thing. Imposter syndrome does not discriminate: If you breathe, you have anxiety, and the only difference between someone who buckles underneath the tragedy of anxiety and someone who triumphs is what they do with their self doubt.
Now let’s get into the good stuff.
Step 1: Identify the Archetype of Imposter Syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is a part of you. But it is not who you are. The part has its own set of thoughts, feelings, characteristics, triggers and beliefs. The better you get to know this part, the more you will recognize when it is present in your life.
Let me share with you an example from my life. I had the opportunity to go to an event and meet someone that I really freaking admired. They were an expert in my field and I had been chomping at the bit to get into their brain and download as much information as possible. But the night before the event, my imposter part kept saying things like, “you don’t deserve to be there tomorrow,” “people are going to wonder how the heck you got an invitation,” “you’re going to embarrass yourself.” I felt tightness in my chest and my sleep was terrible.
My imposter syndrome’s favorite time to come out and harass me was when stuff really mattered. Annoying right?
How do you start to feel like an imposter? Start right now, make a list of times where you have felt like an imposter. Right now, get out a piece of paper and a pencil and make a note of where you were, who was present, what was happening, what your thoughts were, and where you felt it in your body.
Step 2: Speak Up.
When your imposter joins the party if we ignore it, it’s just going to get louder and more obnoxious. Once you know who your imposter is, you can address it. The more you address it, the less powerful it will be, until eventually, it stops showing up altogether.
When your confidence dips and those old familiar messages show up, address it immediately. Say to yourself:
“These thoughts are not mine; they are from my feel like an Imposter Syndrome Part.
This part is a symptom of anxiety. I am choosing to no longer listen to this part.
I chose to live in the present and be open to opportunities.
I accept that I do not know the future,
But I can choose how I live in the now.”
Step 3: The Mind Body Link
This is where it gets tricky. When you literally changes the brain and the brain lives in an intimate relationship with your body.
Remember how I said that my imposter came with tightness in the chest and insomnia? While I can tell my imposter off until the sun comes up, I have to clean up the residue of its presence in my life and in my body.
The good news is that after years of research, I have developed a series of methods for effectively fine-tuning the mind-body link. One of my favorites is a protocol called The Plotline Pivot and I’m going to teach it to you right now.
Place your hands gently on your thighs, and tap slowly: Left, right, left right. Start with your Desired State. Imagine what it feels like to be confident. Calm. Relaxed. Ready. Empowered. Close your eyes. Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth.
Really embody that badass, empowered, amazing, confident state. Notice how it feels head to toe. Notice your thoughts. In the ACT Anxiety program, you’ll experience a transformative exercise called Somatographic Imagery which teaches you in detail exactly how to do this.
But for now, just tap slowly left and right and notice.
Next, bounce that mental storyline back to the anxious state- pull up those feelings that come with the imposter archetype. Pull it up and embody it and just notice for a few moments.
Continue tapping and breathing, gently shift back to your desired state.
When you feel ready, take a nice deep cleansing breath and open your eyes.
Welcome back. : )
When you make this shift, the plotline shifts. You’re taking control of your story. Now you – the director and STAR of your life story gets to decide which state makes it into your story and which gets left on the editing room floor.
Know that you have the power to change your life and when you’re ready to have a fully functional toolkit for kicking that imposter to the curb for good: I’m your gal.
If you feel like an imposter, I have a little gift for you.
It’s called the Anxiety Freedom Masterclass. If you resonated with our time together, come check out this free 1 hour class using Somatographic Imagery to get your life back from anxiety and self-doubt. Babes, you are amazing, you are unique, you have value and I believe in you.
You can watch the FREE Anxiety Freedom Masterclass today and get started on your journey toward true freedom! I will be there guiding you for the entire class–and you can watch it over and over. If you want more support, check out my Anxiety Freedom Facebook Group–because community is pivotal, and my team and I are in the group along with a group of warriors working kicking anxiety to the curb together. Together – we got this.
Here’s to your next chapter, ~Dr. Nicole Cain, ND MA
P.S. If you haven’t already, check out my 1 week Anxiety Freedom Challenge. I have so much passion invested in you getting set free from anxiety. Let’s do this!
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